Tuesday, 24 February 2015

Secret 11: Tick-tock goes your biological clock

There are women whom their greatest dream is to have their own biological children, and perhaps they did not achieve this dream yet because they are still single or they have fertility problems.

My views regarding this are the same as what Mrs. Nanda wrote in the book.

However, I admit that I did not have that understanding before and I also had a dream to have my own children (three!)... But then, I chose to sacrifice this dream after understanding the reality and following my intelligent faith...

Before everything, my husband was my pastor and one day he was sharing the difficulties of the pastors and wives who had children in the work of God. Sadly to say but even though they are sons and daughters of bishops or pastors, many are not converted, they ended up becoming rebellious and so on...

When Denny and I started dating, he made it clear to me that as he is a pastor, he already decided long time ago that he does not want any children. So he told me that if this was not my faith, then I could choose to leave the relationship while it is still early. I did not hesitate to agree with the sacrifice that he chose... I also chose to sacrifice the dream I had to have my own kids.

When I made that decision, there were certainly no emotions involved, and I do not regret anything! The decision we took is not because we hate kids or we have fertility problems or the church forced us not to have kids... absolutely NOT! But because both of us want to give our 100% in order to make more spiritual children for the kingdom of God!

As we chose to put our WHOLE LIVES on the Altar, we do not want to be divided between the people and taking care of our own kids.

How many times I heard people commenting, "Oh, what a waste, Jessica, you and Denny will not have any offspring..." Amen, Praise God for that! For our aim is to bear many offspring of people who are born of God!

For my husband and I, the sacrifice we did is also how much we love our future biological kids because we will prevent them from suffering by living in this cruel world - full of crimes, hardships, abuses, and the greatest fight is to save their souls and keep their salvation!...

My husband and I had options... We were given the privilege to choose and we chose to sacrifice. Our children-to-be would not have this privilege, as they did not choose to be born as children of missionaries. That is why we do not want to force them to carry also the path that we choose to take, I think that it would be unfair for them...

I have learned cases that there are single women who are willing to give themselves (or pay a man) just to get pregnant... They even say that they only want to have a child, not a husband... All these is because of that anxiousness and pressure that they have in them, thinking that they are getting older and afraid that they can not bear kids anymore... Please, do not fall into that!

The happiness of a woman is not about having a child or not... It should not be a reason to be worried, depressed, frustrated, or even feel inferior than others, am I right?! It does not make you a lesser person if you have no kids! Of course not!

Bringing another human being in this world is such a great responsibility!!!

Therefore, we are hoping that you would open your minds and consider these points of view, too.

See you again next week!
Jessica Shigeoka

DISCLAIMER: The "40 Secrets for the Single Woman" is a book written by Mrs. Nanda Bezerra. I did not write the 40 Secrets, what I am writing in this blog are my own experiences and how I identified myself with each Secret found in Mrs. Nanda's book. :) Find out more about it here.

Tuesday, 17 February 2015

Rebekah's secrets

Now the young woman was very beautiful to behold, a virgin; no man had known her.

And she went down to the well, filled her pitcher, and came up.  And the servant ran to meet her and said, "Please let me drink a little water from your pitcher."

So she said, "Drink, my lord." Then she quickly let her pitcher down to her hand, and gave him a drink. And when she had finished giving him a drink, she said, "I will draw water for your camels also, until they have finished drinking."

Then she quickly emptied her pitcher into the trough, ran back to the well to draw water, and drew for all his camels.

For sure, the beauty of Rebekah that the Bible was talking about was not only her physical beauty but her inner beauty.

I am trying to picture in my mind this scene, when the servant ran to meet Rebekah, instead of being afraid, notice her respect towards the man... Take note that the man was a stranger for her, and she does not know anything about his mission so there is no reason for her to give her best foot forward or try to impress the man to be chosen as a bride for Isaac.

Her natural kindness and gracefulness might be one of the reasons she was chosen! She also did not mind the work or the effort that she offered to the servant and his camels, something that there is no need to do but she did! The pitchers at that time were not the small pitchers that we have nowadays, they were big and heavy ones, (might be made of clay, I suppose!) She could have chosen to be lazy and bring home the pitcher to her family, but she chose to go an extra mile in order to serve.

And what about you dear single lady? What is your intention of giving your best? Is it to be noticed by a pastor or any man? The best choice is to BE YOURSELF! If we try to pretend to be someone who we are not, sooner or later, our real identity would be revealed and in the end, we will end up unhappy. Anyways, the right person is the one who will truly love the real you, do you agree?
So they said, “We will call the young woman and ask her personally.”  Then they called Rebekah and said to her, “Will you go with this man?” And she said, “I will go.”
Here, her decisiveness really caught my attention! But of course, before making this decision, she heard every word that the servant was bringing. She knew that the things came from the Lord so she simply believed.

To marry someone is one of the biggest decision we have to make in life. Be sure to choose the right one and not be deceived by any man... Aside from observing the person, it is best to seek advice, think about and weigh what your parents, the man or woman of God would tell you regarding your love life.
Then Rebekah lifted her eyes, and when she saw Isaac she dismounted from her camel;  for she had said to the servant, “Who is this man walking in the field to meet us?”
The servant said, “It is my master.” So she took a veil and covered herself.
Another beautiful quality this woman of God had - she was discreet and she valued herself.

How many girls nowadays think that the shorter clothes they wear, the better... the more they show off their body, the more attractive they would be! Rebekah was not like any other lady, she protected and valued herself and did not make herself cheap nor easy to get.

When a guy marries the right woman, she will add to his life, she will be happy and make her husband happy as well. Look how Rebekah made a difference in Isaac's life.. :)
Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent; and he took Rebekah and she became his wife, and he loved her. So Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
Beautiful, isn't it?! Is there anything else that caught your attention on Genesis 24? Share with us!

Next week, we will resume our 40 Secrets book review! See you, then! :)

Jessica Shigeoka

Thursday, 12 February 2015

Oh the eyes...

I remember as if it was today, the day I attended a night vigil with assistants help by Bishop Macedo in São Paulo and he read this passage:

"Lot looked around and saw that the whole plain of the Jordan toward Zoar was well watered, like the garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt. (This was before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.) So Lot chose for himself the whole plain of the Jordan and set out toward the east."
Genesis 13:10-11
  Well the verse already says it all, even though the plain of Jordan was well watered in the beginning and looked really good, in the end it was destroyed... That's because all sorts of iniquities, sins and all that was not good was being 'cultivated' inside that place...

But the outward appearance deceived Lot.

And this is what our dear Bishop was saying at that vigil, that many are those who are deceived by the outward appearance...
He emphasised about the love life, that many people go by the outward appearance forgetting to see who those people are inside, if they truly have God's character in them. And in this many people have been deceived, have suffered and have even gone to hell because of that.
I believe this night vigil was around 12 years ago... And isn't it what has been happening at an even greater proportion nowadays?

So many people have left their faith, because of the false impression that what they are choosing for their lives, is good, when in fact it's only a mask, it's only beautiful and good on the outside...

My dear friend, don't be deceived. Open your eyes. Not to focus on what is exterior but on what comes from inside. Yes, it's true, what is inside cannot be seen with physical eyes, however when we submit to God He guides us and make us to have the perception of what cannot be seen with physical eyes.

Abram had this vision, he relied on the plan of God  - which he didn't see - and that's the faith he followed until the end.

Look to Abraham!

Wednesday, 11 February 2015

It doesn't matter!

Hello girls,

As I said in my previous post, today I want to talk about another reason which I believe that made Abraham not to bother to chose the path he would walk from that day on, and instead allowed his nephew Lot to make the choice.

For him, it did not matter which path would be the one 'left' for him. What mattered was that God was with him. And if He was with him, it didn't matter which path would be left for him. God would be in control of everything.

What lacks the most in human beings nowadays it's this kind of trust. When the difficult moments come our way, our human nature wants to complain, contest and even doubt God's work. Abram did not worry, He knew inside of him that the Promise would be fulfilled in his life.

So even if what was before him, were difficult paths, he would still trust that God would transform that path.

What about you? Do you also have this kind of reaction when difficulties come your way? Or do you get desperate and forget that God's word never fails?

Look to Abraham.

See you soon.

Tuesday, 10 February 2015

A secret that is not a secret at all...

"Now Abraham was old, well advanced in age; and the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things. So Abraham said to the oldest servant of his house, who ruled over all that he had, "Please, put your hand under my thigh, and I will make you swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell; but you shall go to my country and to my family, and take a wife for my son Isaac."
- Genesis 24:1-4

Notice that in the last days of Abraham, he made sure to give this as one of his last commandments to his most trusted servant about the bride that he will choose for Isaac. He knew the importance of his married life, how it could affect his future. So as a father, he was too much concerned and he can't allow his son to marry any woman, he had a preference for his son. In the same way, real men of God are also looking for a woman of God. They are not after looks but the person who is inside...

Why did Abraham made his servant promise that he would not take a wife for his son from the daughters of Canaanites but he shall go to Abraham's country and to his family? Because marrying a woman from another nation has a different culture, tradition, and most likely, different god than the God that Abraham served. If his son Isaac would do that, he knew that instead of blessing from God, he would bring curse to their nation.

Nowadays, it is very important to follow this example to the single women out there to be very picky and careful regarding this matter... Many think that you can be the "savior" of your boyfriend and turn him into Christian, but it is easier for him to drag you away from God than for you to change him... Find someone who has the same faith as yours, someone who can add to your relationship with God rather turning your relationship with Him to be cold...  The secret that we can learn from today is: prioritize God. It seems simple but we know that for many is very hard to do...

If now that you are just dating and are already having problems regarding your faith, how much more when you get married? Think of the consequences... Never place your relationship with God at risk just because of love life.

We will continue learning about the love life of Isaac and Rebekah next week!

Until then... Kisses!

Jessica Shigeoka

Friday, 6 February 2015

Servant or Master?

"So Abram said to Lot, “Please let there be no strife between you and me, and between my herdsmen and your herdsmen; for we are brethren. Is not the whole land before you? Please separate from me. If you take the left, then I will go to the right; or, if you go to the right, then I will go to the left.” Genesis 13:8-9

Abraham was the uncle, the eldest and the one who had more authority and yet - again! - he was humble enough to allow his nephew to choose which way he wanted to follow.

Many people instead of serving always, regardless of position, time and etc, many times get to a point that all they want is to be served or worst they even step on those people who are less favoured than them... Many are deceived by the fact that they are older or have a higher position and that now they no longer need to do anything for anyone.

It's clear and obvious that we must serve those who are older and who have more authority, but that does not mean that if we are older or have more authority, we should then just cross our arms and wait for people to serve us.

After all, the moment we stop serving, will be the moment we will stop receiving.

May true humbleness be always in our hearts.

In the next post I will also talk about another reason which I think that motivated Abram to let his nephew decide the path he wanted to follow from then on... Can anyone guess?


Wednesday, 4 February 2015

At the beginning...

"Then Abram went up from Egypt, he and his wife and all that he had, and Lot with him, to the South.Abram was very rich in livestock, in silver, and in gold.  And he went on his journey from the South as far as Bethel, to the place where his tent had been at the beginning, between Bethel and Ai, to the place of the altar which he had made there at first. And there Abram called on the name of the Lord."
Genesis 13:1-4

Darlings, I am really enjoying meditating upon the story of Abraham! In only few verses we can learn so many lessons right? It's not by chance he is the father of faith!

Look at this part how nice... Abram had already been to Egypt, he became very rich, with all he acquired there, and he was now even respected by the Pharaoh...
But do you know the first thing Abram did when he left Egypt? He went back to the place he first built his tent and first raised an Altar for God.

What do we understand by this? Even though he had riches, conquests, respect and more, Abram never forgot where he came from. He did not allow his heart to become proud or forgot that all that he had now and even the deliverance he had, was all due to God's work in his life, his LORD!

How many are those who allow their achievements, their title, their position to invade their minds and hearts? How many are those who forgot where they came from, and that if God hadn't intervene they would probably be dead by now...?

May our hearts be always humble like the heart of Abraham who never allowed his victories and riches to deceive him...

Look to Abraham.

See you tomorrow!