There are women whom their greatest dream is to have their own biological children, and perhaps they did not achieve this dream yet because they are still single or they have fertility problems.
My views regarding this are the same as what Mrs. Nanda wrote in the book.
However, I admit that I did not have that understanding before and I also had a dream to have my own children (three!)... But then, I chose to sacrifice this dream after understanding the reality and following my intelligent faith...
Before everything, my husband was my pastor and one day he was sharing the difficulties of the pastors and wives who had children in the work of God. Sadly to say but even though they are sons and daughters of bishops or pastors, many are not converted, they ended up becoming rebellious and so on...
When Denny and I started dating, he made it clear to me that as he is a pastor, he already decided long time ago that he does not want any children. So he told me that if this was not my faith, then I could choose to leave the relationship while it is still early. I did not hesitate to agree with the sacrifice that he chose... I also chose to sacrifice the dream I had to have my own kids.
When I made that decision, there were certainly no emotions involved, and I do not regret anything! The decision we took is not because we hate kids or we have fertility problems or the church forced us not to have kids... absolutely NOT! But because both of us want to give our 100% in order to make more spiritual children for the kingdom of God!
As we chose to put our WHOLE LIVES on the Altar, we do not want to be divided between the people and taking care of our own kids.
How many times I heard people commenting, "Oh, what a waste, Jessica, you and Denny will not have any offspring..." Amen, Praise God for that! For our aim is to bear many offspring of people who are born of God!
For my husband and I, the sacrifice we did is also how much we love our future biological kids because we will prevent them from suffering by living in this cruel world - full of crimes, hardships, abuses, and the greatest fight is to save their souls and keep their salvation!...
My husband and I had options... We were given the privilege to choose and we chose to sacrifice. Our children-to-be would not have this privilege, as they did not choose to be born as children of missionaries. That is why we do not want to force them to carry also the path that we choose to take, I think that it would be unfair for them...
I have learned cases that there are single women who are willing to give themselves (or pay a man) just to get pregnant... They even say that they only want to have a child, not a husband... All these is because of that anxiousness and pressure that they have in them, thinking that they are getting older and afraid that they can not bear kids anymore... Please, do not fall into that!
The happiness of a woman is not about having a child or not... It should not be a reason to be worried, depressed, frustrated, or even feel inferior than others, am I right?! It does not make you a lesser person if you have no kids! Of course not!
Bringing another human being in this world is such a great responsibility!!!
Therefore, we are hoping that you would open your minds and consider these points of view, too.
See you again next week!
DISCLAIMER: The "40 Secrets for the Single Woman" is a book written by Mrs. Nanda Bezerra. I did not write the 40 Secrets, what I am writing in this blog are my own experiences and how I identified myself with each Secret found in Mrs. Nanda's book. :) Find out more about it here.